Actually, it is easy to pee when aroused if you are post-menopausal. My partner’s penis can press upward on my bladder making me want to urinate if I had to go in the slightest. It’s uncomfortable and embarrassing. I’ve had to work very hard not to pee all over both of us.

This topic is triggering for me after I’ve spent two years living with a sex addict who’s sex ed was lots and lots of porn. I’m not sure how universal squirting is but it can become another form of performance pressure for women, if we aren’t careful.

Yeah maybe there’s a slight discharge when I cum, but I’ve never squirted in my life. Not ever. In fact I hate the terminology. It sounds so messy and undignified, but maybe that’s my unresolved residual pain over that abusive relationship.

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