After raising three sons and treating many male counseling clients, I have to strongly disagree. No, sexual addiction doesn’t define every 15 to 26-year-old man.

I didn’t try to distinguish the difference between being very sexually aware and motivated versus using sex as a way to avoid psychological pain and to fill internal gaps and losses. But, they aren’t the same thing. They look completely different.

Thank you for pointing this out, though. It suggests that there is a gap of knowledge. That the average person doesn’t have a good sense what sexual addiction is. So, thank you for letting me know this.

Your comments re: the difference between men and women regarding the use of therapy are fascinating. You hit on an interesting point re: clinicians. Yes, we are small business owners. There are unscrupulous counselors who prolong treatment to ensure a source of income revenue, but this is an ethical violation and reportable.

As a former private practice counselor, I actively worked to end treatment with each client. It was my goal that to wean clients so that they no longer needed me.

When interviewing a potential clinician, this should be explored and considered. An easy way to detemine if a counselor is using this maneuver as a business model is to ask for that therapist’s annual average number of sessions per client. You will quickly see who prolongs treatment and who doesn’t. I averaged about 8 to 12 sessions per client.

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Psychologist/Author. Quora & Medium Top Writer. Mom of three, Autistic woman, Relationship expert kerry@kerrymcavoyphd.com

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