Awwww….a huge thank you!!

The first time I read a story of yours, I said to myself, “There’s huge, gorgeous talent! I got to work alongside of her!” And quite honestly? I was just as terrified as I edited your work, because I felt intimidated by your giftedness, and because as a fellow writer I know how it feels to get a piece critiqued.

My first experience working with an editor was brutal. He not only marked up my work, but sent me scathing comments, like “this is a nightmare,” “you’re making all kinds of basic errors here,” and “this is NOT ready for publication!” I walked around house bawling for two days. Then I got pissed, threw out over 40% of the material, re-wrote the damn thing, and paid him again to edit it one more time. That time he was complimentary.

I learned something, though. Even the cruelest editors can teach me a thing or two. Not only did I learn more about points of view and subject-verb agreements, he taught me to view editing as a form of support rather than rejection.

And, my skin got thicker.

Since then I’ve sat in on and paid for several writing workshops and hired other coaches/editors. In my opinion, I’m not getting my money’s worth if I only hear how good it is. It’s a waste of time. No, I want to, even need to, hear how I can make my story better.

I love it when I work on a sentence until it suddenly takes on almost a magical quality. You know what I’m talking about – when it’s so lovely that once you read it, you have to stop and marvel at the beauty of its message. It’s takes your breath away.

Most of the time it requires the help of an editor to make a piece sing like that.

Marilyn Regan and I spoke to one another as we prepared to publish your last article in Unapologetically Real. She texted back in reference to it, “Fabulous story!” We couldn’t be more thrilled to have you a part of our writing team!

You are so incredibly talented! :)

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Psychologist/Author. Quora & Medium Top Writer. Mom of three, Autistic woman, Relationship expert

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