Great article, Roy.

Thanks for sharing it with me. It’s great you met someone in 12 dates. Rather unusual when compared against the histories of the men I’ve met. I think it speaks to your readiness. Most of the guys I meet I honestly don’t know why they’ve agreed to go out.

My socially responsible (6-feet apart) walk on Saturday treated our time like a therapy session. No kidding. And I did not initiate that kind of conversation. He went there all on his own. I just listened and did a lot of mirroring since I wasn’t in the mood to be his psychologist. At the end of our walk, which I ended, he told me to give him a call if I wanted some PR help…good grief. I think he felt guilty for the free help and wanted to give me something in return.

I got the point. He wasn’t interested. Honestly? Never was I, so it was all good.

But, seriously, he lacked readiness.

I don’t get it. Most men I meet take up the entire time talking about the other women they’re meeting or their past failed relationships.

You know what? I just decided right now that the next time this happens I’m going to ask if we could drop that line of conversation and focus on getting to know one another. Why the hell not? It’s already going terribly wrong! How much worse could it get? LOL

Well, thanks for the share. Very, very interesting. I hope you and the “snogged” girlfriend are still going strong and having a great time.

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Psychologist/Author. Quora & Medium Top Writer. Mom of three, Autistic woman, Relationship expert kerry@kerrymcavoyphd.com

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