I asked him directly and he lied. He deceived me about his practice. If I had known I would have moved on.

My point was about deceptive practice around one porn’s usage. It wasn’t about consensual porn — that’s a completely different thing.

I have no problem with a person doing what he or she will in private life — but just be straight up about it. As I wrote at the end of the article. If you do it? Own it.

Regarding women lying about porn use? That hasn’t been my experience and I’ve talked to a lot of women. As a psychologist I’ve had the privilege of knowing a lot about a lot of people. Your comment about this surprises me.

Thanks for your input. Very interesting.