I don’t get it. It’s so hurtful. To wonder purposefully what it’d be like to screw another woman by looking longingly at her photo?

What if your wife spent her free time looking longingly at expensive trips, luxury homes, or nicer cars. That it was such a constant habit you knew the lifestyle you helped to provide wasn’t enough. Didn’t truly satisfy her?

Or she read or watched material on longer-lasting erections. She researched ED medication. When you spoke to her about it, she said she finds such stuff interesting but that it didn’t mean anything — she was satisfied by you and your sexual performance. Only this behavior doesn’t stop. I wonder how that would affect you?

The problem with this issue is that it’s difficult to come up with a powerful enough example to hit home just how painful this looking behavior is to women in a committed relationship. I get you can’t help but to notice a pretty woman walking by, but you can avoid taking a second look. Online research, though? Inexcusable. It crosses the line.

Psychologist/Author. Quora & Medium Top Writer. Mom of three, Autistic woman, Relationship expert kerry@kerrymcavoyphd.com

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