I get it! That’s fine…but tell me why lie about it? Why deceive me? Why ask for exclusivity with me when he never intended to give that to me?

Polygamous? No problem. Just say so, though. Don’t you agree? That you would be upfront about that and agree that’s that how things are going to roll?

See, that’s the problem. He didn’t want an open relationship. He was insanely jealous if I even texted a guy about work issues. What was okay for him was only okay for him, but not for me. He deceived me and lived a secret double life.

That’s the problem with this – the duplicity.

So are you saying that’s okay? That lying to your partner(s) about your polyamorous practices is acceptable and even normal? And are you saying it’s okay for one partner to lie so that they get a partner who’s living monogamous lifestyle while they aren’t?

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Psychologist/Author. Quora & Medium Top Writer. Mom of three, Autistic woman, Relationship expert kerry@kerrymcavoyphd.com

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