I love this angle and you are so right. My spending and grooming habits changed. I started dressing better in more expensive clothes and using more makeup. For the first time I bought teeth whitening strips and began to use perfume. Mostly so that I seemed more appealing, but to also address his subtle criticism.
We are not together, and my spending has dropped — although I have kept a few new habits that I like.
Thank you for pointing out what was obvious but missed!