I shook my head in grief and horror as I read your comment. I know what you are talking about, though.
Mine would delay until I was finished and then take a long time. The drier the better. I think it was to show me who was boss. It didn't matter that it hurt. Yes, I should have stopped it. I know that. But I hoped my willingness would draw us closer. Of course, it didn't.
But near the end, he wasn't interested and let me know too. Rubbed it in as if he was a poor pitiful man who didn't know why he felt nothing for me.
Meanwhile he was acting out in the most horrific ways. No loyalty to our marriage, to his vows, or to me. So terrible. So sad. Pathetic.
Never ever again. No one is ever use me like this again. It's unconscionable. Evil.