I’m sorry labeling? You lost me. I was explaining not labeling. You said monogamy isn’t a given so I explained that the problem was the deception.

Now you’ve lost me. I don’t see the connection between his practice of habitual lying with this comment.

I agree with you that we can’t change others. We can only make the best decision for ourselves. That is very true.

Honestly I dislike labels. They are reductionistic. Human nature is too complex to be summed up in one or two words.

These labels re: my ex are HIS labels. He says this is what he is. It’s his explanation for his outrageous behavior. And he used them as an excuse for his betrayal.

I didn’t diagnose him, that would be inappropriate since I’m too close to the situation. Other professionals did, and he did himself.


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