Oh goodness no! Not at all. Please read the comment I gave to Eloí for a detailed look into what I was surviving. There you will get a better picture of the extreme nature of the acting out.

Here’s the short answer.

Anyone who has a habit of deception and lying to cover sexual habits has an issue. AND, these sexual practices include to need for excessive sexual activity for the sake of distracting from painful feelings, which leads to a sense of shame and guilt afterwards. This guy had a double life which he hid. I had NO IDEA. He lied and deceived me to cover his tracks.

As I said, I give a better picture in my response to Eloi.

Thank you for your honest reaction. I hope my comments here as well to others help.

Best wishes,


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