Oh man, great list. Painful to read, worse remembering living it.

1 I also thought of the struggle or dread I felt trying to discuss an issue. It would inevitably turn into a fight and he wouid storm off in a huff for hours doing god-knows what. Probably something he shouldn’t.

2 Or the criticism that I made everything difficult just because I asked for clarification. Instead of responding helpfully, it became a big deal.

3 His failure to take responsibility. He’d leave things half finished or undone — for example he had several years he “forgot” to pay his taxes. It cost nearly a thousand dollars to file those late years. Yeah, yeah — I paid for the filing although I never took care of the bill he owes the IRS. That’s his problems. We’re no longer together. It’s probably still owed.

What assholes. It’s terrible to see what a pushover I was. No more!! That my new motto. No more.

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