Oh my! You nailed it. Yep, I lived this for two horrible years. I felt so trapped — by my intense desire to be chosen by him, my fear of him, and the financial entanglements. I worked endlessly for the two of us for our business while he sat around, watched TV and ate popcorn. I still couldn’t do enough, do it right, or think of the angles. He’d find something wrong.

It really changed for me when I looked at him in a middle of an argument as he was shutting down and pulling away in a angry pout that this was unacceptable. I’d never be okay with someone treating a child of mine like this. Then I asked why was it acceptable treatment for me?

That was one of the final pieces I needed to see that enabled me to leave.

Great piece! Thank you!!

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Psychologist/Author. Quora & Medium Top Writer. Mom of three, Autistic woman, Relationship expert kerry@kerrymcavoyphd.com

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