Thank you for this raw story.
Like you I loved him and wanted to save us when I found out. It nearly made me crazy with paranoia and fear. He lied and got better at covering it up.
It took nearly two years for me to leave. I learned several valuable lessons in the process. The biggest one is no one is watching out for me the way I am. To stop looking for that in another person. I must love myself more.
I’m glad you are out and hope you are healing now. All the best to you.