…nine years. Two years ago I found someone in a similar situation and we began our affair. It sounds like your guy tried to use you to heal himself.Kerry, I’m in a sexless marriage because of a spousal medical condition.212Teresa J ConwayKerry McAvoy, PhDJun 18, 2020·1 min readThanks for sharing. Your circumstances sound tough.Re my guy? I’m not so sure of his motivation. It may have been for more selfish reasons than looking for healing. I’ll probably never know in this lifetime.