…nsibility for your own emotions, and stop leaving them to the mercy of your partner or your spouse. If something makes you sad or angry, voice it, but don’t expect the other person to respond or make changes in order to accommodate your comfort.
E.B. Johnson, NLP-MP
This line in particular was a WOW….! It’s a super hard one for me to do. I still find myself wishing I’d get comfort from another. Most often I don’t — not really. Yeah, many people say the right words but few know how to hold space in the worst moments.
But there’s a bigger problem for me. I’m still looking to be parented and that’s not going to happen. Those days are gone. That leaves the job up to me to do. And frankly I devalue my kind of comfort. It’s not quite what I crave. But…that’s who I got. Me. So I’m working very hard on letting it be enough.
Fantastic article. So much stuff to mine from it. Rich, deep nuggets of wisdom. Thank you very much. Wow…