Wow! That’s beautiful. Thank you.

It’s interesting your breakthrough occurred when you lost your father. Mine has been on the heels of my last disastrous marriage.

I’m writing a memoir of that story and as I’ve been committing the story to the page I’ve realized I married an adult version of my abuser — -with the emotional neglect, lack of empathy, practice of deception and manipulation, his objectification of me, the trauma bonding, my effort to ingratiate myself to him, and this sexual misuse.

As I saw the similarities, I felt slapped awake. This awareness has been instrumental in my healing. I see myself making lots of gains.

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I consider it a huge and sacred privilege.

All the best —

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