Yes, I’ve noticed the same expectation — that the whole date is geared towards the one goal of getting in my pants. Now I am clear from the start when I begin to text someone new that that won’t happen right away. A large portion of men up and disappear. If sex isn’t on the table by the first date, then apparently they’ve concluded I’m not the worth the time.

Sorry but I am — it’s just these men are not worth my effort. I’m not into a one-trick pony. I want a real relationship so I’m glad these guys save me the trouble of having to weed them out.

Loved your article!

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